fix shared hash join core because of change part count && fix tpch performance regression because of check alive

Change the block_size_ of Macro meta's column_checksums(SEArray) from 8K to sizeof(int64_t) to save memory.

enable batch_stmt_optimization query return to large query queue, disable retry for non-first multi-stmt item

[4.1] fix tablet_gc service bug that when tablet gc in a logstream error stop the loop of the remaining log stream