* Fix communicator slow bug & fix communicator stop bug (#20366)

* test=develop,Fix communicator slow bug

* test=develop, delete if() in stop_worker()

* test=develop

* fix UT, test=develop

* fix bug in fetch handler, test=develop

* fix bug in fetch handler, test=develop

* test=develop, fix fetch barrier bug

* test=develop, bug fix

* test=develop, bug fix

* test=develop, fix bug

* test=develop,test=release/1.6

add executor.FetchHandler for train/infer from the dataset

* add a base class for the Communicator
* add AsyncCommunicator Impl for async distributed training

* fix correctness of the communicator

* fix a bug in send thread when sending var context is empty, test=develop

* add lookup_table_prefetch_op and prefetch optimize, test=develop

* remove remote prefetch GPU supported

* word2vec force with CPU, test=develop

* test dist remote lookup table force with CPU, test=develop

* split different comm method for mnist distributed training

* fix save/load in Fleet
* add UT framework of Fleet

* fix nccl2 lars dist support

* put lars in momentum op

* add tests lars

* fix ci

* fix cpu kernel

* soft warning

* remove lars in test_recognize_digits.py

* move to another op

* add file

* update api.spec test=develop

* update test=develop

* fix api.spec test=develop

* wip

* wip, finish grad merge ops

* wip, finish graph build

* wip test running

* work on 1 gpu

* workable version

* update

* fix tests

* fuse broadcast op

* fix compile failed

* refine

* add batch merge test mnist

* fix CI test=develop

* fix build

* use independent bn params for batch merge test=develop

* update api.spec

* follow comments and for test

* wip

* refine tests test=develop

* follow comments test=develop

* remove startup bn modify test=develop

* follow comments test=develop

* fix merge test=develop