* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix hashtable_kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop
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[XPUPS]add support for kunlun2
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* fix cmake. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix dep for graphs_ps_gpu. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* trainer and worker

* delete commonsparsetable from gpups

* delete vlog

* codestyle

* delete communicator from gpups

* extract sub-graph

* graph-engine merging

* fix

* fix

* fix heter-ps config

* test performance

* test performance

* test performance

* test

* test

* update bfs

* change cmake

* gpu ps graph engine

* remove logs

* Add neighbor sampling method

* Add actual_sample_size and offset for sampling

* Delete Chinese comment

* Fix code style
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* extract sub-graph

* graph-engine merging

* fix

* fix

* fix heter-ps config

* dump cpu

* code format

* gpu ps graph engine

* remove logs

* rename pten dir to phi

* rename namespace to phi

* rename infrt pten dir to phi

* resolve conflict

* rename pten to phi in cmake

* revert all infrt change

* change needed files

* fix infrt failed

* fix inference failed

* Added selected_rows and rw_lock to pten

* Renamed the unit test target to fix CI

* Removed Class SelectedRows in Fluid, changed include/cmake relationship, use pten::SelectedRows in Fluid

* Remove rw_lock.h,rw_lock_test.cc in fluid

* Use pten::RWLock and pten::AutoRDLock, fix CI

* Use pten::SelectedRows

* Use pten::SelectedRows

* Fix to pass NPU CI

* Use pten::SelectedRows, to pass NPU CI

* To fix NPU CI

* To fix NPU CI again

add hashtable dynamic mf support

add dynamic mf size api

add mem pool

* refine structure for cuda and rocm

* update

* update

* update

* update

* auc temp

* cuballocator

* code format

* code format

* add refrence

* format

* merge dense

* log level

* tensor copy sync

* format

* psgpu:edit cuda remote_streams; test=develop

* fix hdfs and fleet_util for supporting save/load infer;test=develop

* pslib with cmake

* heter util

* vlog

* heter server test

* add dtor

* cmake

* Revert "Revert "[PsCore] optimize performance of large kv (#32535)" (#32599)"

This reverts commit 809ac036.

* brpc dep

This reverts commit 4b7242b0.

* optimize pull sparse

* optimize pull sparse

* change macro

* format

* pscore support heterps

* fleet cmake

* fleet wrapper

* macro

* solve conflict

* solve conflict

* add unitest

* paddle enforce

* unitest

* unitest

* unitest

* [ROCM] update fluid operators for rocm (part5), test=develop

* address review comments, test=develop

* fix typo, test=develop

* topo and memory performance for heterps; test=develop
* add trainwithprofiler in heter trainier; test=develop

* push multi node

* multi node

* MultiThread

* remove log

* solve bug in 30829

* dump to cpu

* format

* format

* format

* add topo aware

* resource.h

* topo aware

* format

* 　add heter box

* add trainer, worker, wrapper...

* format

* for ci

* format

* remove boost get

* boost & copyright

* rename

* 　rename

* format

* format

* format
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