Set expected place in child thread for dataloader to avoid costing cuda memory on other card (#30338)

* set expected place in child thread for dataloader

* set device id when set tensor from numpy

* revert tensor_py change

* add compile guard

* fix ci

* fix bug

* remove BatchSampler type check. test=develop

* upgrade comment string to raw string

* fix string in

* fix string with ' '

* revert update on comments

* upgrade only necessary

* fix sample code checker

* fix comments with '''

* polish dataloader doc detail, test=decument_fix

* fix commnet error

* fix word error

* fix dataloader. test=develop

* DataLoader support not auto collate batch. test=develop

* update DataLoader doc. test=develop

* polish Return doc of DataLoader. test=develop

* make places of DataLoader optional. test=develop

* move worker loop to top level

* move reader process loop to top level

* fix failed unittests

* fix static dataloader default pin memory set

* fix related unittests

* move paddle.fleet to paddle.distributed.fleet

* add IterableDataset support in multiprocess DataLoader. test=develop

* add pin memory control

* fix buffered reader init problem

* fix unittest error

* add unittest for coverage

* move dataset to fleet
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* fix
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* fix
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* fix
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* make default_collate_fn visible. test=develop

* add DataLoader, Dataset, BatchSampler

* sequential reader stage 1, test=develop

* fix ut, test=develop

* fix iterable=False reset bug, add some logs and polish code, test=develop

* inference feed partial data, test=develop

* Turn on keep_order=True for test, test=develop

* enhance ut to test more cases, test=develop

* test commit for reverting

* Revert "test commit for reverting", test=develop

This reverts commit 80aef42e.

* add ut of merged and unmerged results, test=develop

* add more uts for coverages and add en doc of api, test=develop

* follow comments, test=develop

* change note style, test=develop

* polish detail implement of data loader, test=develop

* solve coverage ci problem, test=develop

* add lodtensor share memory & serialization, test=develop

* fix windows compile error, test=develop

* deal vartype pickle & fix unittest matching error message, test=develop

* update timeout variable name, test=develop

* refactor memory map implement, test=develop

* clear mmap file discripter when exit unexpectedly, test=develop

* remove the child process fd in advance, test=develop

* remove mmap fds after Queue.put in child process, test=develop

* add hard unittests for register exit func, test=develop

* fix python2 compatibility problem in unittest, test=develop

* fix exception unittest error, test=develop

* polish code based review comment, test=develop

* add get delay for multiprocess data loader, test=develop

* add unittest for coverage ci, test=develop

* add timeout unittest, test=develop

* increase the delay time, test=develop

* fix dataloader early reset bug, test=develop

* change implementation, test=develop

* fix ut, test=develop

* add multiprocess for dygraph data loader, test=develop

* polish code & add safe gurad, test=develop

* refactor dygraph dataloader & add signal handler, test=develop

* fix member initializer compile error on ci, test=develop

* fix member initializer compile error one more, test=develop

* remove useless config, test=develop

* skip windows incompatible problem, test=develop

* add unittest for coverage, test=coverage

* add more exception unittest case, test=develop

* deal with signal handler coverage, test=develop

* polish code & add signal handler tests, test=develop

* deal with coverage ci problem, test=develop

* split data loader test & coverage ci fix, test=develop

* remove test_imperative_data_loader_with_exception, test=develop

* remove singal process except test case, test=develop

* add exception tests again & remove sample list test, test=develop

* split normal and exception unittests to diff class, test=develop

* polish doc for use_multiprocess effect in static mode, test=develop

* refine dygraph dataloader & polish related code, test=develop

* refine code based review comment, test=develop

* refine py_reader exit, test=develop

* fix multiprocess_reader exception unittest, test=develop

* increase code coverage for legacy fluid.layers.py_reader, test=develop

* impove error message when passing ndarray with object dtype

* imporve message format

* change assert to raise TypeError

* remind user how to locate the irregular data instead of printing

* add unittest for input array type check