adjust ins weight according to nid slot , user can specify adjust_ins_weight in strategy

(1) set fleet_send_batch_num a default value according to trainer num， the previous 80000 is fixed，if trainer num is much less or larger than 100，global shuffle may have timeout error.

(2) fix load one table bug, add barrier

* dump slot

* test

* proto

* dump slot

* test

* proto

* code style

* code style

* code style

* style

* add delete after unseen days

* add unseen days

* code style

* conflict solve
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* add clear model

* code style
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* code style
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refine launch_ps and role_maker

Fix FleetWrapper:
1. fix shrink dense: just scale show
2. add datanorm scale: divide datanorm's gradient by batch_size

The change includes 2 things:

1. save delta model and shrink table are control by the same parameter before, now add delete_after_unseen_days to control shrink table.
2. value in sparse table has no slot before, now add slot in sparse table, and add DownpureCtrAccessor to support the new meta.
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（1）support patch data （merge slots of instances of same line id, modify dense layer which
changes its size）
（2）add fleet load_one_table interface, support load from paddle model and load from pslib model
（3）fix push sparse bug which cause push sparse cost more time（about 10% in my testcase）
（4）when some slots are not in one of your network (join/update, etc.)，data feed、collect label info、push/pull sparse will skip these slots， instead of throw error.
（5）add more debug info in TrainFilesWithProfiler

do some odd jobs, test=develop

* upgrade collective fleet api

* add random port

make fleet support mpi job submit directly.

* add is_runnning in communicator, test=develop

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
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* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
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* fix comment
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* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
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* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
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* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* fix comment
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* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* test=develop
add collective op unittest standard

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* remove slicegather test

* code format for reducescatter

* update attr of shard_index_op

* Modify macro nccl_helper

* remove test without distribute

* macro collective_helper

* marcro update

* test=develop
update support python3.5

* test=develop change gpu memory use to 0.1 when test

* test=develop
update ut equal func

* test=develop
set flags to 1.5

* test=develop fix pickle dumple  py35

* test=develop
fix divide in slice and add sync_comm_stream
update atol and rtol to 1e-05
rm shard_index op and test
modify read input from file to read from memory
remove origin_program in framework and add i/o in c_sync_calc_stream

* test=develop update unittest sync operator I/O

* fix paddle cloud role maker bug

fix role_maker bug
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add paddle cloud role maker for customized usage, note this is only for industrial users that have cloud environment pre-configuration (#18121)

add paddle cloud role maker for specific cloud usage. This pr will simplifies user's configuration in distributed training.

* fix save/load in Fleet
* add UT framework of Fleet

* fix logging unable. test=develop

* unset sys.stdout for stream handler. test=develop

* fix newly add basicConfig. test=develop

* fix import error. test=develop

* add 'UserDefinedRoleMakerNCCL' for collective mode.

* code style

* add the name UserDefinedRoleMakerNCCL to __all__

* rename to UserDefinedRoleMakerCollective

* rename to UserDefinedCollectiveRoleMaker

Async exe support communicator

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* support config file, cvm, load, save, shrink
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* fix error of worker_num & add table.compress_in_save
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* fix code style
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* fix save model bug
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* fix some logic in distributed transpiler, test=develop
* reformat fleet API, test=develop

* implement distributed transpiler with fleet

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