Add user-friendly error message in optimizer ops to give a hint about the position sensitive problem of run(startup_program) (#19605)

* add extra error message hint in optimizer ops

* polish format & delete useless change, test=develop

* extract init judue from shape compare, test=develop

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* add fp16 tests test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix py3 tests test=develop

* fix lr_scheduler dtype test=develop

* fix test=dvelop

* test fix ci compile test=develop

* fix build and merge test=develop

* fallback momentumop change to general test=develop

* make fp16 lr schedule simple test=develop

* fix ut test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* remove fp16 learning rate cast test=develop

This reverts commit 3d750f9c.

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* wip for test

* add fp16 tests test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix py3 tests test=develop

* fix lr_scheduler dtype test=develop

* fix test=dvelop

* test fix ci compile test=develop

* fix build and merge test=develop

* fallback momentumop change to general test=develop

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* wip simplify operator framework

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* done test=develop

* clean test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix deps test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix tensorrt build test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

Fix code to support cpplint syntax check

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* fix nccl2 lars dist support

* put lars in momentum op

* add tests lars

* fix ci

* fix cpu kernel

* soft warning

* remove lars in test_recognize_digits.py

* move to another op

* add file

* update api.spec test=develop

* update test=develop

* fix api.spec test=develop

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* wip, finish grad merge ops

* wip, finish graph build

* wip test running

* work on 1 gpu

* workable version

* update

* fix tests

* fuse broadcast op

* fix compile failed

* refine

* add batch merge test mnist

* fix CI test=develop

* fix build

* use independent bn params for batch merge test=develop

* update api.spec

* follow comments and for test

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* refine tests test=develop

* follow comments test=develop

* remove startup bn modify test=develop

* follow comments test=develop

* fix merge test=develop

* add check for opt op

* fix opt op
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* fix test fail
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* fix optimization doc
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* Fix serious bug in nesterov momentum optimizer.

* Fix attribute naming for momentum_op

* Fix minor typo in comment

* Fix attribute name

* Fix names in test_optimizer

* Fix python wrapper

* Changing learning rate from attribute to input(float)
* Removing obsolete code

Fix #3902

* use operator context

* optimize code

* update net infershape

* update InferShape

* disable override InferShape(scope) in OperatorBase

* change InferShapeImpl to InferShape

* add template to OperatorContext Input/Output

* merge Input InputVar, Output OutputVar

* change Inputs to MultiInput

* fix conflict

* fix MultiInput bugs and add unit test

* rename KernelContext to ExecutionContext

* clean code

* change InferShape to protected

* fix template bug

* refine code

* use InputVar instead of Input<Variable>

* typo

* optimize code

Make implement an operator less noisy.