* XPUPS Adaptation (#40991)

* Adapt XPUPS - 1st version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - update XPU PushSparse -  2nd version - 3.24

* Adapt XPUPS - add XPU PullSparseOp - 3nd version - 3.25

* refactor heter comm kernel

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by compilation - 4th version - 3.27

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* update xpu kernel. test=develop

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* heter_comm update

* update calc_shard_offset. test=develop

* heter_comm update

* update args of calc_shard_offset

* update. test=develop

* remove customGradMerger

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* Adapt XPUPS - use WITH_XPU_KP and modify wrapper kernel function - 5th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update pslib.cmake

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 6th version - 3.30

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update optimizer kernel

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* used by minxu

* update heter_comm_inl

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - modify by kp compilation  - 7th version - 3.30

* fix. test=develop

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 3.31 update

* Adapt XPUPS - update kp compilation path  - 8th version - 3.31

* add optimizer kernel. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix kunlun not support size_t. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm_kernel.kps 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update heter_comm.h 3.31

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 9th version - 4.1

* update hashtable. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update hashtable 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 10th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* update. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.1 19:30

* fix. test=develop

* update ps_gpu_wrapper.kps 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 11th version - 4.1

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 12nd version - 4.2

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* modify by compilation 4.2

* 4.2 update

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* update 4.6

* fix. test=develop

* template init. test=develop

* 4.6 modify by compilation

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* hashtable template init. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=devlop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 13nd version - 4.7

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.11 update

* update by pre-commit

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* fix. test=develop

* 4.12 update

* fix. test=develop

* Adapt XPUPS - update by kp compilation  - 14th version - 4.13

* 4.13 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 update

* 4.14 modify by merged latest compilation

* retry CI 4.14

* 4.15 pass static check

* 4.15 modify by gpups CI

* 3.16 update by gpups CI - modify ps_gpu_wrapper.h

* 4.16 update

* 4.16 pass xpu compile

* 4.16 retry CI

* 4.16 update
Co-authored-by: Nzmxdream <zhangminxu01@baidu.com>

* modify ps_gpu_wrapper.cc

* update
Co-authored-by: Nzmxdream <zhangminxu01@baidu.com>

* pscore support heterps

* fleet cmake

* fleet wrapper

* macro

* solve conflict

* solve conflict

* add unitest

* paddle enforce

* unitest

* unitest

* unitest

* 　add heter box

* add trainer, worker, wrapper...

* format

* for ci

* format

* remove boost get

* boost & copyright

* rename

* 　rename

* format

* format

* format
Co-authored-by: Nyaoxuefeng6 <yaoxuefeng@baidu.com>

Refine PaddleBox Framework, Main functions: 
* Add MetricMsg util class, which can calculate metrics like AUC, bucket_error, COPC.
* Replace FeedPass with new interface: BeginFeedPass & EndFeedPass
* Refactor Pull/Push Sparse Function in box_wrapper.
* Use CUDA Kernel to copy keys and copy feasign between tensor and boxps struct.
* Cache copied keys in pull sparse in order to reuse it in push period.

* Support looking up embeddings from BoxPS.
* Add a _pull_box_sparse op, for now this op is not exposed to users.
* Add a BoxHelper class, providing 'BeginPass', 'EndPass', 'FeedPass' functions and so on.
* Add 'BoxPSDataset' in python code.
* Add a compile options WITH_BOX_PS and a MACRO PADDLE_WITH_BOX_PS.
* Add UT.
* More concrete information pls refer to: https://github.com/PaddlePaddle/Paddle/pull/18982