[oneDNN] disable caching oneDNN primitives in  matmul v2, Reduce grad and elementwise_add grad, expand_v2 (#35132)

* - grad caching disabled of matmul_v1

- compilation fix

- compilation fix

* - reduction removed

* - Matmul v2 disabled caching

* Draft of further changes

* - workaround for reducegrad

* - fixes to UT

* - fix to compilation

* - another fix

* - fix

* copy boost optional.hpp to paddle

* copy boost optional.hpp to paddle

* move directions

* del fluid/utils

* modify .hpp to .h

* move directions

* modify to paddle::optional

* add modification description

* format code stype for the files in paddle/utils

* format code stype

* - disabled caching of layer norm

- fix in compilation

- compilation fix

- transpose caching disabled

- compilation fix

- more compilation fixes

- sum caching disabled

- compilation fix

* - LRN with disabled cache

* lint fixes

* - Added softmax without caching

* - Binary is no longer manually cached

* - Activation onednn caching removed

* - Removed manual caching of activation

* - modified UT

* - fix

* - fix

* - fixes to building

* - fix

* - fix

* - fix to UT

* - Faulty UT workaround

* - approval workaround

* - Fixes after review

* - compilation fixes

* - more lint fixes

* - more fixes after review

* - fixes after another round of review

* - hopefully compilation fix

- compilation fix

This reverts commit 0a5c99e8.

* - Added softmax without caching

* - Binary is no longer manually cached

* - Activation onednn caching removed

* - Removed manual caching of activation

* - modified UT

* - fix

* - fix

* - fixes to building

* - fix

* - fix

* - fix to UT

* - Faulty UT workaround

* - approval workaround

* - Fixes after review

* - compilation fixes

* - more lint fixes

* - more fixes after review

* - fixes after another round of review

* added expand_v2 bf16/fp32 kernel

* minor change

* CI fix

* added missing test file

* added formatting

* reduced binary size

* CI fix

* - fix to #33282

* - Increased threshold for elementwise_mul_bf16 grad

* -disabled faulty UT

* - fix to approval

* base changes for split op

* 90% of split functionality added

* full fp32 functionality

* added bf16 test

* added submemory caching

* added bf test to static mode whitelist

* minor change

* enabled split op for inference

* minor fix

* minor fix

* - Draft of implementation of refactoring

- compilation fix

* - Fixes after review

* - Removed unnecessary comment

* added op cast functionality for fp32/bf16

* added newline

* added entries in static mode white list and unity build

* fixed failing tests

* changes after review

* added formatting

* upgraded tests file as reviewer suggested

* changes after review

* minor change

* Add conv transpose BF16

* Share function GetWeightsTz

* Adjust to review and fix op compatibility

* Add bias to unique handler name

* Remove errors related to paddle enforce

* Add conv2d_transpose to bf16 list and kernel refator

* - Added UT for testing elementwise_mul caching

* lint fixes

* - Reimplemented elementwise_add grad

- lint

* - fix after review

* - Fix to fix after review

* added external reorder to profiler

* added external and internal reorders to profiler

* added internal and external reorder to profiler

* added formatting to int/ext reorder commit

* removed unnecessary comment

* conv dilated mkldnn support: forward and backward pass

* add mkldnn conv_transpose dilation UT
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* remove unnecessary PADDLE_ENFORCE

* add int8 and bf16 dilated conv UT

* update according to reviews

* Refine PADDLE_ENFORCE in paddle/fluid/platform
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* refine PADDLE_ENFORCE
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* Refactor of conv fp32 oneDNN operator
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* Formatting fix
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* Return Enforces
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* GetWeights improvements
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* Start implementing int8 eltwise add

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* - Fix to Michal PR

* - Fix

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* - Lint fixes

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* - Added checking if elementwise_mul can be used

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* - Added attribs to skip_attrs_set

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* - Improved broadcasting

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- fixes to compilation

- fix

- fix

- Lint fixes

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* - removed redundant condition

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Co-authored-by: NMichal Gallus <michal.gallus@intel.com>