resort .cu headers, set clang-format not sort include block and consider .cu as main source file (#43633)

* refactor the optional tensor

* remove optiona<MetaTensor> in InferMeta

* fix bug

* fix optional<vector<Tensor>>

* fix bug

* fix rmsprop

* fix amp of eager_gen

* polish code

* fix deleted code

* fix merge conflict

* polish code

* remove is_nullopt_

* fix merge conflict

* fix merge conflict

* move roi_pool forward kernel to phi

* move roi_pool_grad to phi

* fix compile bug

* fix compile bug

* fix register data_type

* move roi_align_grad kernel

* move roi_align grad kernel and infershape to phi

* remove roi_align infershape

* move roi_align kernel to phi

* fix bug of roi_align xpu