* [PHI] Migrate gelu kernels (#45596)

* gaussian random

* mkldnn to onednn renaming

* fix merge conflicts

* remove fluid code

* onednn renaming

* gelu fwd

* sort activations

* gelu gradient

* remove unused macros

* merge conflicts

* fix merge conflicts

* remove extra contraint from gelu op

* [PHI] relu6_grad kernel (#46501)

* Relu6

* remove fluid handler

* add individual kernel signature

* coding style

* replace bounded_relu with clip

* whitespace

* code style

* fix concat bug

* fix ci bugs

* fix ci bugs

* [XPU] update xdnn activations. (#46246)

* [XPU] update xpu cmake. test=kunlun

* back fl

* delete ssl cert

* .

* make warning

* .

* unittest paral degree

* solve unittest

* heter & multi cloud commm ready

* .

* .

* fix gloo compile warning

* adapt for nn fl-ps

* [XPU] update xdnn to 0906. test=kunlun

* [XPU] update xdnn to 0907. test=kunlun

* [Phi] fix phi compile option for jetson

* Update phi.cmake

* update brpc version;test=develop

* update xccl lib

* change user name to pass cla check

* [XPU] add some collective ops. test=kunlun

* use XPUOpTestWrapper. test=kunlun

* skip kl1 for collective ops. fix typo: deivce -> device. test=kunlun

* fix bug of adaptive pool2d_grad, *test=kunlun

* fix bug of adaptive pool2d_grad, *test=kunlun

* fix bug of adaptive pool2d_grad, *test=kunlun

* move mkldnn activation kernel

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* deal with conflict

* fix compile bugs

* fix windows compile bugs

* mkldnn unittest fix

* change mutable to alloc

* fix unittest bugs

* modify code according comment

* add merged_momentum *test=kunlun

* add merged_momentum *test=kunlun

* add fp16 to merged_momentum,*test=kunlun

* c++ property deserialization

* fix for comment

* more error info

* fix exception info

* fix ci

* fix compile

* fix layer test ci

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* support ninja

* fix mkldnn on windows

* fix mkldnn on windows up1

* up2

* up3

* fix gflags

* BUILD_BYPRODUCTS_OPTION -> BUILD_BYPRODUCTS_ARGS

* use CMAKE_COMMAND

* up x

* [XPU] add top_k op. test=kunlun

* [XPU] add top_k op. test=kunlun

* use PADDLE_ENFORCE_XDNN_NOT_NULL to check pointer. test=kunlun

* Replaced add_custom_command with add_custom_target in xpu_kp_cmake

* fix bug of elementwise_add_grad, *test=kunlun

* fix bug, *test=kunlun

* rm pooling_t, *test=kunlun

* fix bug of ew_add_grad when inplace, *test=kunlun

* back fl

* delete ssl cert

* .

* make warning

* .

* unittest paral degree

* solve unittest

* heter & multi cloud commm ready

* .

* .

* fl-ps v1.0

* .

* support N + N mode

* .

* .

* .

* .

* delete print

* .

* .

* .

* .

* fix bug

* .

* .

* fl-ps with coordinator ready

* merge dev

* update message parse only

* update fl client scheduler

* fix bug

* update multithreads sync

* fix ci errors

* update role_maker.py

* update role_maker.py

* fix ci error: windows py import error

* fix ci error: windows py import error

* fix windows ci pylib import error

* add dump fields & params

* try to fix windows import fleet error

* fix ps FLAGS error

*test=kunlun

* add xpu resnet_unit
*test=kunlun

* tmp
*test=kunlun

* update xccl lib
    * use separate streams for compute/comm on XPU
    * add broadcast op to xpu2_op_list

* build into one static library

* move memory/detail to memory/allocation

* fix bug

* fix profiler

* fix framework_proto

* fix deps

* fix inference compilation

* fix rocm compile

* follow comments

* fix buddy_allocator_test

* adapt mkldnn kernel in PHI

* fix ci compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* delete comment

* fix compile bugs in windows-inference

* delete code for converage

* modify code by review

* modify code by review

* add todo

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* fix compile bugs

* fix unittest bugsx