* [Kunlun] PR1:Support one Kunlun card training in parallel executor (#29337)

* [Kunlun] PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor (#29574)

* [Kunlun] bug fix of PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor  (#29926)

* add bkcl.so in whl for kunlun (#29947)

* [Kunlun] bug fix of PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor  (#29961)
Co-authored-by: NQingshuChen <qingshu.chen714@gmail.com>

* fix bug of fetch_async_op_handle

* revert some changes of test_buffer_shared_memory_reuse_pass

* revert some changes of test_buffer_shared_memory_reuse_pass

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* support use add instead of sum to do gradient accumulation

* add inplace addto pass

* add grad_add op and inplace addto pass

* remove debug code

* code refine

* fix bug when sereral sum ops inserts at same op_idx

* fix Flags type

* add addto attribute for conv3d

* fix ut

* code clean

* fix type

* fix warnings oof gcc 8 compilation, test=develop

* fix boost::bad_get, test=develop

* refine PADDLE_ENFORCE, test=develop

* first version memory optimize pass, test=develop

* remove move_tensor_sharing_pass, test=develop

* refine code comments, add unittests, test=develop

* turn off memory_optimize by default, test=develop

* follow huihuang's comments, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments, test=develop

* fix grammar error, add const qualifier, fix pass_test exception message, test=develop

* follow chengduoZH's comments 2nd, test=develop

* feature/buffer_shared_inplace, test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* fix elementwise_add op cpu inplace and sum inplace bug, test=develop

* add unittest and debug log, test=develop

* fix parallel_executor scope bug, polish code, test=develop

* fix sum op, activation op, single_in_place_inference bug, test=develop

* remove kLocalExecScopeName, test=develop

* fix unittest,test=develop

* fix out_var first version bug, test=develop

* follow comments,test=develop

* reset drop local scope counter
test=develop

* speedup gc and inplace softmax_with_cross_entropy_grad
test=develop

* refine models gpu mem
Merge skip vars and warning messages of mem opt
remove relu mem opt
test=develop

* follow comments
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* follow comments. test=develop

* Fix typo

* fix compile error. test=develop

* merge develop branch. test=develop

* Remove set_equal

* Polish code

* Delete unused functions

test=develop

* polish code. test=develop

* follow comment

* polish code.

* fix windows compile error. test=develop

* fix op handle.

* rerun ci. test=develop

* rerun ci. test=develop

* rerun macci. test=develop

* polish code. test=develop

* rewrite sort code. test=develop

* remove unused code. test=develop

* fix tests. test=develop

* fix conflict. test=develop

* follow comment. test=develop

* merge develop branch. test=develop

* fix tests. test=develop

* remove ToTypeIndex. test=develop

* rerun ci. test=develop

test=develop

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replace use_event with use_cuda, because use_event means the program running with CUDA, so use_cuda maybe more intuitive.

* Privatize OpHandleBase

* Clean up a few private members

* Eagerly drop local scope in iteration

* Correct create var

* Fix typo

* Debug