Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server (API add `fluid.contrib.layers.sparse_embedding` only) (#22957)

* Integrated Trainer of Parameter Server

* add unit accessor in fleet, support DownpourUnitAccessor
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This reverts commit 66fce9e8.

Fleet Parameter Server API Integrated

* general table

* add sparse table
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* no cvm
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* add no_cvm
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* add note
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* add key of optimizer
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* fix cache table bug
* add save_paddle_inference_model
* fix hdfs util bug
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* copy some feasigns and corresponding embeddings from one sparse table to another
* copy all feasigns and corresponding embeddings from one sparse table to another
* copy all dense params from one table to another
* copy some local vars to other local vars

* no longer need to define all embedding layers (no one less) of all slots in each program. make trainer_param repeated in ps.proto.
* add find_distributed_lookup_table_grads instead of hard code GRAD
* support embedding stop gradient. push sparse has error before fix this.* 
* fix fill sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding. each slot's embedding in a sparse table should be used in all training programs before fix this.
* fix pull sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* fix collect feasign label info, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* support when there are multi sparse tables in one or multi training programs, each program can pull/push its own related sparse tables instead of all sparse tables.
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* fix fc sort . test=develop

fleet_desc sort fc name by dictionary sort, but we want to sort by number.

fix fleet_desc dense_table unsort bug ，not  support format for abacus hotstart yet.

 add fleet_desc config feature & multi_sparse table,

* fix default value of fleet desc, default values are same with jingpai
* print log when save model

The change includes 2 things:

1. save delta model and shrink table are control by the same parameter before, now add delete_after_unseen_days to control shrink table.
2. value in sparse table has no slot before, now add slot in sparse table, and add DownpureCtrAccessor to support the new meta.
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* support config file, cvm, load, save, shrink
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* fix error of worker_num & add table.compress_in_save
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* fix code style
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* fix save model bug
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* fix some logic in distributed transpiler, test=develop
* reformat fleet API, test=develop

* implement distributed transpiler with fleet