* no longer need to define all embedding layers (no one less) of all slots in each program. make trainer_param repeated in ps.proto.
* add find_distributed_lookup_table_grads instead of hard code GRAD
* support embedding stop gradient. push sparse has error before fix this.* 
* fix fill sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding. each slot's embedding in a sparse table should be used in all training programs before fix this.
* fix pull sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* fix collect feasign label info, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* support when there are multi sparse tables in one or multi training programs, each program can pull/push its own related sparse tables instead of all sparse tables.
* test=develop