refine launch_ps and role_maker

Fix FleetWrapper:
1. fix shrink dense: just scale show
2. add datanorm scale: divide datanorm's gradient by batch_size

The change includes 2 things:

1. save delta model and shrink table are control by the same parameter before, now add delete_after_unseen_days to control shrink table.
2. value in sparse table has no slot before, now add slot in sparse table, and add DownpureCtrAccessor to support the new meta.
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（1）support patch data （merge slots of instances of same line id, modify dense layer which
changes its size）
（2）add fleet load_one_table interface, support load from paddle model and load from pslib model
（3）fix push sparse bug which cause push sparse cost more time（about 10% in my testcase）
（4）when some slots are not in one of your network (join/update, etc.)，data feed、collect label info、push/pull sparse will skip these slots， instead of throw error.
（5）add more debug info in TrainFilesWithProfiler

do some odd jobs, test=develop

* upgrade collective fleet api

* add random port

make fleet support mpi job submit directly.

* add is_runnning in communicator, test=develop

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
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* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
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* fix comment
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* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

* fix prepare context redundant code problem, optimize executor by caching create_varaiables
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* supports collective training in executor

* make fetch_list runable with variables, add more unittest for use_program_cache
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* use unique name for nccl_id

* supports output to stream in program_to_code

* insert sync_comm_stream before regularization; add skip_op_callstack capability in program_to_code

* set op role in collective training

* add collective op role

* fix comment
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* remove orig file

* add build optimizer by strategy

* add collective strategy

* refine collective strategy

* add multi-process role maker

* refine strategy building factory so that we can easily plugin more strategy

* scale loss grad in collective sgd transpiler

* add support for distributed fc

* code format

* revert some features for dist fc

* add support for distributed fc training

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add collective op unittest standard

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remove the test_collective directory

* test=develop
remove the test_collective directory

* remove slicegather test

* code format for reducescatter

* update attr of shard_index_op

* Modify macro nccl_helper

* remove test without distribute

* macro collective_helper

* marcro update

* test=develop
update support python3.5

* test=develop change gpu memory use to 0.1 when test

* test=develop
update ut equal func

* test=develop
set flags to 1.5

* test=develop fix pickle dumple  py35

* test=develop
fix divide in slice and add sync_comm_stream
update atol and rtol to 1e-05
rm shard_index op and test
modify read input from file to read from memory
remove origin_program in framework and add i/o in c_sync_calc_stream

* test=develop update unittest sync operator I/O

* fix paddle cloud role maker bug

fix role_maker bug
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add paddle cloud role maker for customized usage, note this is only for industrial users that have cloud environment pre-configuration (#18121)

add paddle cloud role maker for specific cloud usage. This pr will simplifies user's configuration in distributed training.

* fix save/load in Fleet
* add UT framework of Fleet

* fix logging unable. test=develop

* unset sys.stdout for stream handler. test=develop

* fix newly add basicConfig. test=develop

* fix import error. test=develop

* add 'UserDefinedRoleMakerNCCL' for collective mode.

* code style

* add the name UserDefinedRoleMakerNCCL to __all__

* rename to UserDefinedRoleMakerCollective

* rename to UserDefinedCollectiveRoleMaker

Async exe support communicator

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* support config file, cvm, load, save, shrink
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* fix error of worker_num & add table.compress_in_save
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* fix code style
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* fix save model bug
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* fix some logic in distributed transpiler, test=develop
* reformat fleet API, test=develop

* implement distributed transpiler with fleet

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