[cherry-pick] support layer_norm fp16 in dygraph amp (#30430)

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* add auto_cast, test=develop

* add loss scaler, test=develop

* add comments, test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* do not set flags automatically, test=develop

* fix custom op bug, test=develop

* add more test, test=develop

* refine enable logic, test=develop

* enable amp test with GPU, test=develop

* add unittest

* add test for found_inf

* follow comments

* follow comments

* remove global variable, use singleton

* add some notes

* update comments

* update comments

* update comments

* add use_dynamic_loss_scaling argument

* refine found_inf

* refine found_inf