fix bug in pool/conv/conv_transpose: UpdatePaddingAndDilation, _get_padding_with_SAME and conv2dtranspose_forward_naive. (#20997)

* fix bug in pool/conv/conv_transpose:
1. It should be stride[i] not stride[0] in UpdatePaddingAndDilation;
2. fix bug of func  _get_padding_with_SAME in test_conv/conv_transpose_op.py;
3. fix bug of the computation process in function conv2dtranspose_forward_naive.
test=develop

* change test to make the data of different dimensions different. test=develop