This partially reverts commit 6e593ab8.

remove automagic cleanup, make IDecoration an IDisposable which gets cleared from the label, still ref count styles tho, #81467

This reverts commit 2b61a881.

Fixes https://github.com/microsoft/vscode-remote-release/issues/1596

Fixes #78438

This one was a bit tricky to figure out what was going on, but this is how it
was working before: Terminals that use extension processes calls
$createTerminal from the ext host, this returns a promise with an ID that gets
returned asynchronously after the process has been setup (ie. an ext host process
proxy was created).

The reason we needed the timeout was because the process initialization is async
as we need a layout to occur so that we have the dimensions of the terminal to
give to the process. The fix could have been setTimeout(..., 0) as well but that
feels hacky as well, the fix in this commit is to pipe an event through from
the process manager which is the actual time when we are good to start telling
ext hosts are the new terminals.

Fixes #77655

Maps `editor.mouseWheelScrollSensitivity` to xterm  `scrollSensitivity`
Fixes issue where fastScrollSensitivity wasn't applied to open terminals

Fixes #79226

Fixes #83261

Fixes #83289