upgrade to maven 3.0.3 (will prevent issue when pom parsing phase : http://jira.codehaus.org/browse/MNG-4963)

(effectively bumping from 1.63 to 1.64)

Updating to use parent POM 1.14 (with hardcoding of maven-hpi-plugin 1.64) and to explicitly use maven-hpi-plugin 1.64, to fix requiredCore missing problem with plugins.

spinning the test annotations off to a library so that it can be used in other places, like in the core