This exposes the `Settings::leak_vm` flag to custom embedders. All embedder
unit-tests now shut down the VM on the shutdown of the last engine in the
process. The mechanics of VM shutdown are already tested in the Shell unit-tests
harness in the DartLifecycleUnittests set of of assertions. This just exposes
that functionality to custom embedders. Since it is part of the public stable
API, I also switched the name of the field to be something less snarky than the
field in private shell settings.