Improve the guide about `has_many` `collection.clear` to indicate
the behavior for each dependent strategy according to
`collection.delete_all`.

Based on #17179, I changed the `collection.delete` docs to also
clarify the default strategy for each `hm` and `hm:t` associations.

Fixes #20170.

 - CollectionProxy#clear method calls delete_all so the SQL is directly
   run into the database.
 - So the updated_at column of the object on which its run is not
   updated.
 - Closes #17161

Fixes #18237

Construction of relations can be a hotspot, we don't want to create one
of these in the constructor. This also allows us to do more expensive
things in the predicate builder's constructor, since it's created once
per AR::Base subclass

For detailed testing of behavior see:
https://gist.github.com/eileencodes/5b0a2fe011dcff6203fe

This shows destroy_all always destroys records and fires callbacks.
It will never use nullify or delete_all

delete_all's behavior varies greatly based on `hm` vs `hm:t` and deletion
strategy.

This method no longer returns an array of all records that
have been removed. Correct documentation to reflect this change.

See issue 14546

CollectionProxy should be able to reuse the behavior (methods) of its parent class,
but with its own state. This change allows CollectionProxy to use the arel object
corresponding to its association's scope.

Need to define #reset on CollectionProxy.

This commit fixes two regressions introduced in cafe31a0 where
newly created finder methods #second, #third, #forth, and #fifth
caused a NoMethodError error on reload associations and where we
were pulling the wrong element out of cached associations.

Examples:

  some_book.authors.reload.second

  # Before
  # => NoMethodError: undefined method 'first' for nil:NilClass

  # After
  # => #<Author id: 2, name: "Sally Second", ...>

  some_book.first.authors.first
  some_book.first.authors.second

  # Before
  # => #<Author id: 1, name: "Freddy First", ...>
  # => #<Author id: 1, name: "Freddy First", ...>

  # After
  # => #<Author id: 1, name: "Freddy First", ...>
  # => #<Author id: 2, name: "Sally Second", ...>

Fixes #13783.

It is needed for activerecord-depecated_finders

This reverts commit dcff027a, reversing
changes made to 3a209398.

According to our guideline, we leave 1 space between `#` and `=>`, so we
want `# =>` instead of `#=>`.

Thanks to @fxn for the suggestion.

[ci skip]

Method `delete_all` should not be invoking callbacks and this
feature was deprecated in Rails 4.0. This is being removed.
`delete_all` will continue to honor the `:dependent` option. However
if `:dependent` value is `:destroy` then the default deletion
strategy for that collection will be applied.

User can also force a deletion strategy by passing parameter to
`delete_all`. For example you can do `@post.comments.delete_all(:nullify)`

The previous implementation was necessary in order to support stuff
like:

    class Post < ActiveRecord::Base
      default_scope where(published: true)
      scope :ordered, order("created_at")
    end

If we didn't evaluate the default scope at the last possible moment
before sending the SQL to the database, it would become impossible to
do:

    Post.unscoped.ordered

This is because the default scope would already be bound up in the
"ordered" scope, and therefore wouldn't be removed by the
"Post.unscoped" part.

In 4.0, we have deprecated all "eager" forms of scopes. So now you must
write:

    class Post < ActiveRecord::Base
      default_scope { where(published: true) }
      scope :ordered, -> { order("created_at") }
    end

This prevents the default scope getting bound up inside the "ordered"
scope, which means we can now have a simpler/better/more natural
implementation of default scoping.

A knock on effect is that some things that didn't work properly now do.
For example it was previously impossible to use #except to remove a part
of the default scope, since the default scope was evaluated after the
call to #except.

Cleaned up rdoc a bit emphasizing that callbacks are called. Also
removed the stress on the fact that records are always removed.

If callbacks return false then records will not be deleted.

This makes the arguments the same as ActiveRecord::QueryMethods::select.

The similarity of `Relation#uniq` to `Array#uniq` is confusing. Since our
Relation API is close to SQL terms I renamed `#uniq` to `#distinct`.

There is no deprecation. `#uniq` and `#uniq!` are aliases and will continue
to work. I also updated the documentation to promote the use of `#distinct`.

Closes #7364.

Collection associations behave similar to Arrays. However there is no
way to prepend records. And to append one should use `<<`. Before this
patch `#append` and `#prepend` did not add the record to the loaded
association.

`#append` now behaves like `<<` and `#prepend` is not defined.