PATCH is the correct HTML verb to map to the #update action. The
semantics for PATCH allows for partial updates, whereas PUT requires a
complete replacement.

Changes:
* adds config.default_method_for_update you can set to :patch
* optionally use PATCH instead of PUT in resource routes and forms
* adds the #patch verb to routes to detect PATCH requests
* adds #patch? to Request
* changes documentation and comments to indicate support for PATCH

This change maintains complete backwards compatibility by keeping :put
as the default for config.default_method_for_update.