* add submodule pocketfft

* add submodule xbyak

* remove shallow_copy arg

* make third_party's cmake get source code directly 2

* modify according to zhouwei's comment

* eager needs mkldnn to compile

* new function: share third party cache among servers to fasten build speed

* modified code according to zhouwei25's comment

* add wget install step, move cd build to the last of if condition

* block note and error of third_party share; change bce upload method

* change third_party sub_dir in bos, since third party in different cuda version cant share

* set sub_dir by get nvcc version

* change third_party local path to be same with bos path

* support Ninja and establish dependencies relationship between paddle with third_party

* fix CI

* support Ninja

* Update Xbyak and add bf16 fast performance verification

* Fix formating

* Change LOG message

* Trigger an update of a new tag

fix bug that sourcecode of third_party can't be cached correctly,and add cache for xbyak and openblas (#22772)

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