* [Phi] Support setting size of vector<Tensor> for out in yaml (#41576)

* support setting vector out size in yaml

* support setting size of vector<tensor> for out in yaml

* resolve conflict
Co-authored-by: Nzyfncg <zhangyunfei07@baidu.com>

* add phi gather kernel

* update year

* remove original gather opkernel

* add gather grad phi kernels

* remove origin gather grad kernel

* fix failed npu and xpu

* fix xpu compile failed