Cherry-pick PR 37420, fix inplace bug when the first grad_var(loss_grad) is inplace var (#37420) (#37488)

fix inplace bug，Cherry pick PR #37420

修复了fused_transformer_encoder_layer fine-tune过程发现的一些问题：

    fused_attention_op添加attn_mask=None的支持：PR
    pre_layer_norm处理问题：PR
    参数处理，计算错误的问题：PR
    add_bias计算错误问题：PR
    添加pure fp16的支持：PR

本PR是fused_transformer的layer层代码，包含FusedFeedForward的layer层代码和FusedTransformerEncoderLayer的代码。

* Add FasterTokenizer Operator (#34491)

Add Tokenizer related functionalities for Transformer model in order that the process of training and predicting is consistent.

* support the text string as an input Tensor
* support the "VOCAB"unordered_map<wstring, int> as an input Tensor to lookup tokens
* Tokenizer used for BERT. This tokenizer applies an end-to-end, text string to wordpiece tokenization.
* It first applies basic tokenization, followed by wordpiece tokenization.

* optimize fast tokenizer

* remove const_cast
Co-authored-by: Nzhoushunjie <zhoushunjie@baidu.com>
Co-authored-by: Nwawltor <fangzeyang0904@hotmail.com>

Support various length support for SelectedRows in GLOO::AllGather (#36637)

    In cpu parallel using gloo, add various length support for SelectedRows

* refine amp level

* fix typo

* update tracer._amp_level

[cherry-pick] Support CPU Parallel in DataParallel Interface by GLOO to speed up training (#35745) (#36605)

* User specified backend (#35745)

* remove tensordot

* add pure fp16 major function in auto_cast & tracer

* support master weight in dygraph for pure fp16

* check mix dtype of fp16&fp32 for check_finite_and_unscale op

* change pure fp16 funtion name

* refine some bug in auto_cast

* refine auto_cast interface logic

* add param _casted_by_pure_fp16 for class Layer

* support state_dict hook for save model by user appointed dtype in pure_fp16_decorator

* refine pure_fp16_decorator as decorator

* add unittest

* add comment

* add comment

* support recompute

* add comment for auto_cast and decorator

* support to_static_state_dict for paddle.jit.save

* unlimite models num and optimizers num

* add lookup_table in black_list

* fix momentum and layer state_dict

* fix bug in layer state_dict

* fix bug in layer state_dict_helper

* refine unittest

* refine test_momentun_op

* refine interface and some code

* refine amp_decorator interface

* refine pure fp16 interface

* refine master weight interface

* make flag setter easier

* update

* rename macro name

* fix bug of public/writable

* update to pass CI

* polish

* fix CPU link error

* Add solutions to PyLayer which is unsupported in DataParallel

* modify note format for parallel.py

* modify docs of dataparallel

* add docs of dp with pylayer

* modify docs format

* modify example format

* change example of dp with pylayer

* add unittest for dp with pylayer

* modify ut

* merge latest codes

* update

* modify for CI-Coverage

* modify text-indent

* add backward inplace for dygraph

* fix bug

* support gradient accumulation

* can pass the fake test

* add files

* modify cmake to pass windows-ci

* for ci pass

* WITH_GLOO=ON

* for pass coverage test

* add cpuonly testcase

* add

* disable nccl when compile with cuda

* change python version in cpuonly

* add backend argument

* add required gpu

* add required:gpu

* support KL label smooth

* update UT for KL label_smooth

* Add no_sync in data parallel for dynamic graph

* modify UT of no_sync

* delete test_parallel_dygraph_dataparallel_no_sync.py

* add test_parallel_dygraph_no_sync.py

* modify run_trainer_with_spawn in UTs

* Add UT of complex control flow in no_sync

* add specific descriptions and notes for no_sync

* check code style

* modify UT's TIMEOUT in CMakeLists.txt

* support kunlun black list and add kl1 op

* xpu_op_list add device_context dependence

* fix backward bug

* format code style

* add test case for grad tensor accumulator

* support Kunlun2

* support KL2

* support KL2

* support set_device for NPU.

* minor update doc and add more unit test.

* in NPU environment, use CPUPlace for missing operators.

* in NPU environment, use CPUPlace for missing operators.

* fix TensorCopy bug and add unit test.

* fix code style.

* add more unit tests.

* optimize attr default value, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* fix bug in AttrReader, test=develop

* fix bug, test=develop

* fix double_grad, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* fix checker null, test=develop

* for test, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* refine, test=develop

* Combine amp and qat
* add unit test

* add check nan of inf for dygraph

* add unittest for dygraph

* revert error change

* replace 'InnerSetOverridedStopGradient' with 'SetOverridedStopGradient'.

* improve coverage.

* polish error message.

* modify matmul Op to complex template types

* remove complex64/128 head file

* fix find_unused_parameters default value

* add relu6_ hardsigmoid_ leaky_relu_ Inplace APIs

* add softmax_with_cross_entropy_ Inplace API

* add clip_ scale_ add_ subtract_ Inplace APIs

* add wlist

* fix parameter of scale api

* add add_n_ Inplace API and remove log_ Inplace API

* fix elementwise_add_ and elementwise_sub_ broadcast problem

* elementwise inplace api give error message before run the op

* use broadcast_shape in elementwise inplace op

* add 8 inplace apis that is auto generated

* add unittest for all inplace apis

* add decorator for inplace apis in static mode

* fix windows blas fail of exp inplace api, change array_equal to allclose

* add flatten inplace api

* add flatten unittest

* fix flatten unittest

* add decorator

* fix grad.numpy in test_pylayer_op

* unsupport softmax_with_cross_entropy_

* add test_inplace_softmax_with_cross_entropy to static_mode_white_list

* delete __all__ in inplace_utils

* delete activation inplace function and add Tensor.inplace_func

* change paddle.inplace_ to Tensor.inplace_

* fix little problem

* add paddle in inplace_utils