set default python3,fix incompatible,cache dir for third party,unify error code,for windows (#26178)

* set default python3 for paddle windows,test=win

* set default python3,cache dir for third party,error code,test=win

* fix some incompatible

* fix some error

* set virtual environment,test=win

Currently, our tests run with 2 GPUs, the init time is absurdly long:
about 4s for each process.  Currently, we run each OP test on
different processes. This PR:

1. create cmake function py_test_modules which will generate the
Makefile that runs a list of Python unittest module in a single Python
process.

2. move all "python unittest compatible" (e.g., used the unittest
package, not just a regular python file). from fluid/tests to
fluid/tests/unittests.

3. cmake now will run all OP tests in fluid/tests/unittests in a
single process, except the time-consuming tests, they are separated
into different processes to utilize parallelism. Please make sure to
use the unittest package if you put the python test file in
fluid/tests/unittests

4. remove all exit(0) from fluid/tests/unittests/*.py, exit(0) is used
to disable unittest, we can not do it when running all tests in a
single process since it will terminate the process without running the
other tests. Instead, the test is disabled in
fluid/tests/unittests/CMakeLists.txt. FIXME is added for each disabled
item. Please disable the unittest from
fluid/tests/unittests/CMakeLists.txt, instead of adding exit(0) to the
Python file, for all Python file in fluid/tests/unittests/.

5. add an option WITH_FAST_BUNDLE_TEST. When OFF, will run the unit
tests in separate process so that they can be tested individually.

ISSUE=4586495

git-svn-id: https://svn.baidu.com/idl/trunk/paddle@1408 1ad973e4-5ce8-4261-8a94-b56d1f490c56