solve hccl communicate conflict (#32447)

* pscore support heterps

* fleet cmake

* fleet wrapper

* macro

* solve conflict

* solve conflict

* add unitest

* paddle enforce

* unitest

* unitest

* unitest

* upgrade vlog

* train from dataset fetch optimize

* add 1f1b scheduler for pp, test=develop

* heter bug

* format

* format

* topo and memory performance for heterps; test=develop
* add trainwithprofiler in heter trainier; test=develop

* 　add heter box

* add trainer, worker, wrapper...

* format

* for ci

* format

* remove boost get

* boost & copyright

* rename

* 　rename

* format

* format

* format
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* update, test=develop

* ps gpu transpile

* ps gpu

* remove op

* gps trainer

* local ps

* add macro

* HeterBox

* def cuda

* tab

* code style

* style

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* add multitask

* add multitask, test=develop

* fix code style, test=develop

* add partail push dense, test=develop

* fix has_kay in py3, test=develop

* fix, test=develop

* fix, test=develop

* fix, test=develop

* add xpu in heter mode
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* BOOST_CONST_GET; PADDLE_THROW
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* refine
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* refine
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* refine
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* refine code
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* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* add heter ps mode

* code style
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* add with_pslib
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* unitest
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* code style
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* code style
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* test monitor
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* prepare trainer
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* code style
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* fix test_pipeline, test=develop

* add device_worker for pipeline, test=develop

* test=develop, add try_catch for debug

* Refactor code for dump_field & dump_param: abstracting the common function in base class.
* Support dump randomly & random with lineid
* Support specify the random interval, which avoids printing too much logs.

* add fleet pslib pull and push sparse op and push dense op
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* update

* update test=develop

* update compile set test=develop

* update compile set test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

* update compile setting test=develop

* update compile setting test=develop

* update run demo test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

* fix test=develop

* update test=develop

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* update format test=develop

* update format test=develop

* update style test=develop

* update style test=develop

* change style test=develop

* change style test=develop

* change style test=develop

* add dataset unittest test=develop

* update test=develop

* update for record test=develop

* udpate style for record test=develop

* update for record test=develop

* update for record test=develop

* update for record test=develop

* fix format test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

* update test=develop

支持不依赖nccl进行编译。[1/2]

多卡下，如果没有打开WITH_NCCL开关编译，多卡不能通信，则只能选择一张卡使用。
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

* add half_async in the communicator
* fix DistributedStrategy

* fix compiled error of butil when with_pslib=on and with_testing=on
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* general table

* add sparse table
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* no cvm
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* add no_cvm
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* add note
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* add key of optimizer
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* copy some feasigns and corresponding embeddings from one sparse table to another
* copy all feasigns and corresponding embeddings from one sparse table to another
* copy all dense params from one table to another
* copy some local vars to other local vars

* support dump param to afs
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* code style
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* code style
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* dump param
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* dump param
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* dump param
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* dump param
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* no longer need to define all embedding layers (no one less) of all slots in each program. make trainer_param repeated in ps.proto.
* add find_distributed_lookup_table_grads instead of hard code GRAD
* support embedding stop gradient. push sparse has error before fix this.* 
* fix fill sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding. each slot's embedding in a sparse table should be used in all training programs before fix this.
* fix pull sparse, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* fix collect feasign label info, skip slots which do not have embedding.
* support when there are multi sparse tables in one or multi training programs, each program can pull/push its own related sparse tables instead of all sparse tables.
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* add check nan / inf in downpour worker during training
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fix memory leak in HogwildWorker,  whose ops are  explicitly deleted in destructor

* add thread scope stat accurate metrics test=develop

* fix style

* fix style

* fix style

* fix style test=develop

* fix style test=develop

* fix style test=develop

* fix style test=develop

* fix style test=develop

* fix style test=develop

* fix style test=develop

* fix conflict

* fix style

* fix style test=develop

* fix error test=develop

* fix error test=develop

* dump slot

* test

* proto

* dump slot

* test

* proto

* code style

* code style

* code style

* style

* add delete after unseen days

* add unseen days

* code style

* conflict solve
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* add clear model

* code style
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* code style
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* support debug tensor of each ins
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* support debug tensor of each ins
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* learning rate

* code style

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* code style
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* unitest

* style

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* multi phase

* add channel

* code style

* style

* style

* unitest

* style

* define

* define
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* style
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* rm define
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* linux

* linux
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* style
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* output format
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* windows ci
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* add a place field in DataFeed to denote which place it will feed data to.
* abstract the copy process in CopyToFeedTensor function
* add UT for float32 type and for CUDAPlace

adjust ins weight according to nid slot , user can specify adjust_ins_weight in strategy

Fix FleetWrapper:
1. fix shrink dense: just scale show
2. add datanorm scale: divide datanorm's gradient by batch_size

The change includes 2 things:

1. save delta model and shrink table are control by the same parameter before, now add delete_after_unseen_days to control shrink table.
2. value in sparse table has no slot before, now add slot in sparse table, and add DownpureCtrAccessor to support the new meta.
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fix data feed ptr runtime error, pipeline trainer will core in some cases, so set it nullptr as default value.

(1) use channel instead of vector/BlockingQueue in Dataset，to keep same with existing implementation, and make code more readable and flexible (dataset single output channel or multi output channel). one previous memory out of limit problem is cause by not release memory after training.
(2) add Record because MultiSlotType costs too much memory (80B)，fix memory out of limit problem.
(3) add Channel, Archive in paddle/fluid/framework
(4) change dataset from shared_ptr to unique_ptr in pybind
(5) move create/destroy readers from trainer to dataset
(6) move shuffle from datafeed to dataset. dataset holds memory, datafeed is only for load data and feed data to network.
(7) fix thread num bug of Dataset when filelist size < thread num
(8) support set_queue_num in InMemoryDataset