Cherry-pick #40338 #41741 #41313

* infrt add trt engine

* fix register

* file generate

* fix ci error

* fix conflict

* add copyright

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* update engine name

* refactor trt code

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* fix compile with cuda

* fix gpu conetxt callback

* fix gpu callback

* fix callback early destruct problem

* Added cuBlasLtHandle_t to device context.

* Added fused_gemm_epilogue op.

1. Added fused_gemm_epilogue op to leverage cuBlastLt Epilogue.
2. Support fusion Act(X*Y + bias), X'dims >=2 and Y'dims shoule be 2.
2. Act currently only be supported ReLU. (Will add GeLU in the future).

* Added UT to fused_gemm_epilogue op.

* Added LinearAct Pattern

1. Added LinearAct into graph_pattern_detector.* to define (2.)'s
pattern.
2. LinearAct is used to detect act(element_add(matmul_v2(x, w), bias)).
3. act currently only support ReLU (Will support GeLU in the future).

* Added FuseGemmEpiloguePass

1, Added FuseGemmEpiloguePass to handle nn.Linear + Act{ReLU}
fusion (GeLU will be supported in the future).
2. Only support matmul_v2 from nn.Linear.

* Added pybind to BuildStrageter.fuse_gemm_epilogue_.

* Added UT for fuse_gemm_epilogue_pass.

* GeLU support and EpilogueSingleton

1. Added GeLU support to fused_gemm_epilogue op.
2. Added EpilogueSingleton to cache auxiliary pointer.
3. Added related UTs.

* Rename cublaslt_epilogue_opto gemm_epilogue_op.*.

* Added both train and infer pattern to LinearAct.

1. Added support of fwd graph with grap_ops linking to LinearAct.
2. Added related changes to fuse_gemm_epilogue_pass for above
modification.

* Changed CUDA requirement from 11.4 to 11.6 for fuse_gemm_epilogue_pass.

* Added identity activation support to gemm_epilogue_op.

* Added Linear Fusion (matmul_v2 + ele_add)

1. Added matmul_v2 + ele_add pattern to LinearActPattern.
2. Added matmul_v2 + ele_add support to fuse_gemm_epilogue_pass.

* Rename gemm_epilogue_op.* to fused_gemm_epilogue_op.*

* Add fused_gemm_epilogue_grad op.

1. Added fused_gemm_epilogue_grad to support backward epilogue fusion.

* Add UTs to fused_gemm_epilogue_grad_op.

* Change attribute name in fused_gemm_epilogue_grad_op for clearing.

* Allow DX and DBias be dispensable to fused_gemm_epilogue_grad op.

* Added ElementwiseAdd+Matmul+Act graph pattern detection.

* Fuse backward of Linear( Act(x))

1. Added backward fusion pass to Linear( Act(x)).
2. Added backward fusion pass to Linear(x).

* Added UTs to backward fusion of Linear(Act(x)).

* Complete document of arguments to fused_gemm_epilogue_op.

* Made arguments of some functions pass by reference.

* Modify code with review comments.

1. Made arguments of some function pass by reference.
2. Removed redundant code.
3. Followed Google code style to change code.

* Made 'const' code style be consistent

* Fixed random seed of python UTs.

* Set Compiling constrains to cuBlasLt

1. Require CUDA 11.6+
2. Remove fuse_gemm_epilogue related tests when CUDA < 11.6.

* Code Reivew from Paddle

1. Changed arguments name is_first_gemm to without_x_gradient for
clearing.
2. Applied PADDLE_THROW in fused_gemm_epilogue_op.

* Remove EpilogueSingleton

1. Applied ReserveSpace to replace Epilogue for passing auxiliary
pointers between FWD and BWD.

* Fix a logical error and enhance UTs.

1. Added act op count checking in UTs.
2. Fix issue to fuse backward or ReLU(Linear(X)).
3. TODO: solve GELU fusion issues.

* Fix Linear and GeLU fusion issues.

1. Modified graph_detech_pattern to fit with both linear wiht gelu or
relu.
2. Modified data range in Uts to allow negative values.

* Removed fused_gemm_epilogue_op.h.

* Rename namespace pten to phi.

* Rename name of arguments in fused_gemm_epilogue_op

1. bias -> Bias.
2. out -> Out.
3. reserve_space -> ReserveSpace.

* Change EpiloguePassActivationCache as local variable.

1. Removed singleton in EpiloguePassActivationCache.
2. Made EpiloguePassActivationCache as an argument to each pass
functions.

* rename pten_utils to phi_utils

* rename pten_utils target

* rename Pten to Phi

* replace pten with phi

* resolve conflict

* rename pten dir to phi

* rename namespace to phi

* rename infrt pten dir to phi

* resolve conflict

* rename pten to phi in cmake

* revert all infrt change

* change needed files

* fix infrt failed

* fix inference failed

* gpu_context..

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