* support GarbageCollector for npu

* fix typo

* fix gather_grad

* disable NPUDefaultStreamGarbageCollector on NPU

Fix compilation problem (#31100)

* change to tensor copy sync

* change to tensor copy sync

* make copy_to safe when use TensorCopy

* refine code

* add ut

* add cudapinned garbagecollector

* add testcase: cpu place -> cuda pinned place

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* support Baidu AI Accelerator
  * test=kunlun

* minor
 * test=kunlun

* support xpu op in separate file
 * test=kunlun

* update XPU error message and remove duplicated code

 * test=kunlun

* minor
 * test=kunlun

* minor
 * test=kunlun

* fix warnings oof gcc 8 compilation, test=develop

* fix boost::bad_get, test=develop

* refine PADDLE_ENFORCE, test=develop

* open gc by default, test=develop

* fix test_train_recognize_digits and disable gc when ngraph is enabled, test=develop

* fix conditional_block op eager deletion bug, test=develop

* add some comments to reviewers, test=develop

* speedup gc and inplace softmax_with_cross_entropy_grad
test=develop

* refine models gpu mem
Merge skip vars and warning messages of mem opt
remove relu mem opt
test=develop

* follow comments
test=develop

test=develop

test=develop

add unittest model containing while_op
remove unnecessary codes
test=develop

test=develop