reduce the  occupied size  of memory for the fused pattern of elementwise_add Op and activation Op(relu Op for example) (#29885)

* add new macro BOOST_GET_SAFELY & unittests, test=develop

* add different macro type, test=develop

* fix get macro type in executor, test=develop

* four macro part change backup

* using one macro for all case, test=develop

* revert attribute change, test=develop

* change to three func to solve gcc4.8 bug, test=develop

* polish some details, test=develop

* refine grad maker, test=develop

* refactor tracer stage 1, test=develop

* merge develop to solve conflict third times, test=develop

* refactor dygraph,test=develop

* fix failed unittest,test=develop

* polish code,test=develop

* check windows ci error,test=develop
try to fix windows ci error by np.allclose,test=develop

* polish vlog and profiler, test=develop

* try to fix preceding ops order,test=develop

* test transformer in windows ci, test=develop

* use python c-api to speed up tracer.trace,test=develop

* test=develop, fix docker with paddle nccl problem

* test=develop, add ut for debug string and gradient_accumulator

* test=develop, add tests for layer/gradient_accumulator/prepared_op

* test=develop, fix complie error for test_prepared_op

* test=develop, add more ut for dygraph

* test=develop, create API.spec for dygraph api change

* optimize grad maker; test=develop

* optimize grad maker

* test

* grad make optim; test=develop

* fix unittest bugs; test=develop

* add dygraph grad op maker and split_op

* grad op maker refactor; test=develop

* add dygraph grad maker; test=develop

* fix op deformable_conv_v1_op bug; test=develop

* fix deformable_conv prroi pool bugs;

* fix new op grad op maker bug; test=develop

* fix split by ref bug; test=develop

* fix dygraph auto prune bug; test=develop

* fix test_trace bug; test=develop

* fix fused emb seq pool bug; test=develop

* remove useless code in op_desc file; test=develop

* remove useless code, StrVarBaseNode; test=develop

* fix review issues; test=develop

* fix rank_loss grad maker; test=develop

* remove flag in VarBase; test=develop

* fix distributed_notify_op compile bug ; test=develop

* fix reshape op double grad; test=develop

* fix expand as op; test=develop

* add impertive type_defs.h for demo_train; test=develop

* fix inference lib cmake; test=develop

* fix inference lib; test=develop

* fix infernce_lib; test=develop

* fix inference cmake; test=develop

* fix inference lib; test=develop

* fix inference lib; test=develop

* remove condition dygraph grad maker, modify local name; test=develop

* fix split grad maker bug; test=develop

* fix pyramid_op bug; test=develop

* change travis time out limit; test=develop

* restore travis; test=develop

* change timeout limit; test=develop

* replace part of the old implementation, test=develop

* restore concat op, test=develop

* update all ops implemention & delete GetDataTypeOfVar func, test=develop

* Enhance fused_elementwise_activation op.
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* Move the api fused_elementwise_activation to contrib.
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* Add including files.
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* Add the support of sigmoid in fused_elementwise_activetion op.

* Update API.spec.
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* wip simplify operator framework

* wip

* wip

* done test=develop

* clean test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix deps test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* fix tensorrt build test=develop

* fix tests test=develop

* fix test=develop

* fix cpu build test=develop

* Add Preface

* Add demo code

* Save file

* Refine code

* seems can work

* use elementwise strategy

* Use ElementwiseComputeEx

* Add comments

* extract functions from operator

* Refine code

* Follow comment

* code refine

* add op_fuse  pass

* add backward

* code refine

* use TopologySortOperations

* follow comments

* refine IsFusible

* code enhance

* fix op_fusion_pass

* refine code

* refine fuse_elemwise_act_op

* adjust the input and output

* refine logic

* add intermediate_edge

* disable inplace

* follow comments

* refine logic

* follow comments

* Remove the removable IntermediateOut

* change strategy

* code refine

* enable fuse backward

* code refine

* code refine

* rename unit test

* follow comments

* Enhance the function of fused_elementwise_activation_op

* enhance unit test

* Clean Code And Add Doc

* Add compound functors

* Fix doc and enhance unit test

* define Dx and Dy for d_binary_func

* add mul_scale

* add mul_scale

* add elementwise_mul

* code refine

* code refine

* add doc

* add  AsIntermediate

* Add Preface

* Add demo code

* Save file

* Refine code

* seems can work

* use elementwise strategy

* Use ElementwiseComputeEx

* Add comments

* extract functions from operator

* Refine code

* Follow comment

* code refine

* follow comments

* follow comments