* standard api

* fix sparse bugs

* fix xpu bugs, test=kunlun

* remove hard code for custom unittest

* open ci, test=kunlun

* deal with conflict

* [XPU] update xpu cmake to 0923. test=kunlun

* [XPU] update xpu cmake to 0928. test=kunlun

migrate xpu activation/activation_grad/transpose/transpose_grad/tril_triu/tril_triu_grad kernel to PHI, test=kunlun (#45554)