* [Kunlun] PR1:Support one Kunlun card training in parallel executor (#29337)

* [Kunlun] PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor (#29574)

* [Kunlun] bug fix of PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor  (#29926)

* add bkcl.so in whl for kunlun (#29947)

* [Kunlun] bug fix of PR2: Support MultiDevicePass and BKCL in parallel executor  (#29961)
Co-authored-by: NQingshuChen <qingshu.chen714@gmail.com>

* refine broadcast_op_handle

* refine some error messages

* refine some files

* fix bug

* fix bug

* fix bug

* follow comments

* follow comments

* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* feature/buffer_shared_inplace, test=develop

* refine code, test=develop

* fix elementwise_add op cpu inplace and sum inplace bug, test=develop

* add unittest and debug log, test=develop

* fix parallel_executor scope bug, polish code, test=develop

* fix sum op, activation op, single_in_place_inference bug, test=develop

* remove kLocalExecScopeName, test=develop

* fix unittest,test=develop

* fix out_var first version bug, test=develop

* follow comments,test=develop

test=develop

test=develop

    Node should be created by Graph::CreateXXX so that
    they are managed by graph.

* Privatize OpHandleBase

* Clean up a few private members