* add xpu in heter mode
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* BOOST_CONST_GET; PADDLE_THROW
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* refine
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* refine
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* refine
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* refine code
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* use iwyu clean include, test=develop, test=win

* compilation error, test=develop

* fix compilation error2, test=develop

* fix compilation error3, test=develop

* fix compilation error4, test=develop

* fix compilation error5, test=develop

* fix compilation error6, test=develop

* fix compilation error7, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error8, test=develop

* fix compilation error10, test=develop

* fix compilation error11, test=develop

* add heter ps mode

* code style
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* add with_pslib
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* unitest
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* code style
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* test monitor
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* prepare trainer
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* code style
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cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

Add Pipeline Concurrency Train Mode:
- Cpp: pipeline_trainer & section_worker
- Python: PipelineOptimizer
- Add a new data_feed type: PrivateInstantDataFeed
- Add a test demo of pipeline trainer and the test model is gnn
- Do not support win32 now

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add dist_multi_trainer for distributed training, add trainer_factory and device_worker_factory so that we can easily extend new training mode, add pull dense worker which is a singleton for parameter fetching