* add DistributedFusedLamb op

* polish code

* fix compile error

* compatible with pten changement

* fix rocm compile error

* improve converage

* update upstream/develop

* fix cast_with_ptr.h

* add FLAGS_distributed_lamb_divide_nranks_when_allreduce=1

* fix clip before allreduce

* add use_master_param_norm

* code polish

* fix bug

* fix ROCM ci