[CHERRY-PICK2.1]Remove paddle_custom_op dynamic libraries, and link to FLUID_CORE on windows (#32583) (#32769)

* Remove paddle_custom_op dynamic libraries, change link to FLUID_CORE on windows, and check copy_to

* fix CI

修复了py_layer_op由于没有析构PyLayerContext造成内存(显存)泄露的问题。

原始pr：#32707

* clear 'BasicEngine' when an exception occurs in the backward. (#32546)

* clear 'BasicEngine' when an exception occurs in the backward.

* deal with conflict.

* deal with conflict.

* forward return any type. (#32661)

* base changes for fix

* minor change

* fix for bwd kernel

* removed unnecessary import

* implemented reviewers suggestions

* CI fix

cherry-pick:change softmax_with_cross_entropy_op's parameter name from softmax_switch to use_softmax (#32750)

* change parameter name from softmax_switch to use_softmax, test=develop

* cherry-pick:change parameter name from softmax_switch to use_softmax, test=develop

cherry-pick #32561

* add relu6_ hardsigmoid_ leaky_relu_ Inplace APIs

* add softmax_with_cross_entropy_ Inplace API

* add clip_ scale_ add_ subtract_ Inplace APIs

* add wlist

* fix parameter of scale api

* add add_n_ Inplace API and remove log_ Inplace API

* fix elementwise_add_ and elementwise_sub_ broadcast problem

* elementwise inplace api give error message before run the op

* use broadcast_shape in elementwise inplace op

* add 8 inplace apis that is auto generated

* add unittest for all inplace apis

* add decorator for inplace apis in static mode

* fix windows blas fail of exp inplace api, change array_equal to allclose

* add flatten inplace api

* add flatten unittest

* fix flatten unittest

* add decorator

* fix grad.numpy in test_pylayer_op

* unsupport softmax_with_cross_entropy_

* add test_inplace_softmax_with_cross_entropy to static_mode_white_list

* delete __all__ in inplace_utils

* delete activation inplace function and add Tensor.inplace_func

* change paddle.inplace_ to Tensor.inplace_

* fix little problem

* add paddle in inplace_utils

* add op read_file and decode_jpeg

* Add dlnne engine runtime

* Remove <const_cast> and remove unrelated modify with dlnne, +clang-format

* Add copyright message

* Add some paddlepaddle_pass to support more networks

* Add delete dropout_op pass
Co-authored-by: Ndenglin-github <82362191+denglin-github@users.noreply.github.com>

* Add bf16 uniform random initializer

* Remove duplicated section

* Change UT to CPU place only

* Put detail functions into anonymous namespace

This is cherry-pick of #32281

cherry-pick of #32666

后续修复计划是啥

- Executor is nt always having FLAGS_use_mkldnn set to true

* optimize update_loss_scaling_op by fused for loop to one kernel, test=develop

* remove useless while loop and optimize variable name, test=develop

* optimize variable name from out_addrs_tensor to out_addrs_mem, test=develop

* optimize variable name for readable by change prefix identifier from t_ to local_

* [OPs] Bug fix, fix the segment mean for illegal syncthreads usage.

This reverts commit 4b7242b0.

Co-authored-by: NYang Zhang <yangzhang@live.com>

* add sendrecv, test=develop

* new optimize for where_index_op with prefix sum version.

* write a scan prefix sum kernel with stream for where index op.

* optimize where_index by using cub::DeviceScan::InclusiveSum instead of imperfect self-kernel.

* remove CheckTrue struct and rename stide_array for readable.

* optimize variable name for readable.

* optimize function name and annotation.

* optimize pull sparse

* optimize pull sparse

* change macro

* format

* Unset ReserveSpace for inference program.

* Support training from an inference program.

* fix model parallel

* rm parallel_help.py

* add embedding

* support backward return None.

* edit unittest.

* edit code according to CI

* Improve error information

* optimize slice op and slice grad op, test=develop

* optimize variable name and annotation information, test=develop