* fix softmax_with_cross_entropy cuda kernel overflow bug, test=develop

* replace old macro & for condition, test=develop

* polish details, test=develop

* remove REPLACE_ENFORCE_GLOG compile option & add ci rule prohibit LOG(FATAL) using, test=develop

* remove ci test case, test=develop

* replace all LOG(FATAL) & polish message, test=develop

* fix typo, test=develop

* polish error info detail, test=develop

cmake选项中添加了WITH_NCCL，显示指定是否编译NCCL的部分代码，WITH_NCCL默认打开，但如果WITH_GPU为OFF，则关闭WITH_NCCL

添加了PADDLE_WITH_NCCL定义

单机单卡能够关闭NCCL编译，多卡的话需要默认打开NCCL，如果关闭NCCL，则只能使用单卡
Co-authored-by: N石晓伟 <39303645+Shixiaowei02@users.noreply.github.com>

remove nccl related code in windows

* support data_norm_op run in CUDA
* add two parameters sync_stats & summary_decay_rate
* add UT