To support py3.11, pybind need to upgrade to v2.10.0 (#51350)

* to support cuda12, pybind need to upgrade to v2.10.0

* add DEPS of pybind in test_custom_plugin_creater.cc

* only change the tag

* please let CI pass

* try pybind v2.10/3

* modify the include header in test

* code check

cmake/external/pybind11.cmake

@@ -16,7 +16,7 @@ include(ExternalProject)
 
 set(PYBIND_PREFIX_DIR ${THIRD_PARTY_PATH}/pybind)
 set(PYBIND_REPOSITORY ${GIT_URL}/pybind/pybind11.git)
-set(PYBIND_TAG v2.6.0)
+set(PYBIND_TAG v2.10.3)
 
 set(PYBIND_INCLUDE_DIR ${THIRD_PARTY_PATH}/pybind/src/extern_pybind/include)
 include_directories(${PYBIND_INCLUDE_DIR})

paddle/fluid/inference/tensorrt/convert/test_custom_plugin_creater.cc

@@ -14,10 +14,10 @@ limitations under the License. */
 
 #include <gtest/gtest.h>  // NOLINT
 
-#include "paddle/extension.h"
 #include "paddle/fluid/framework/program_desc.h"
 #include "paddle/fluid/inference/tensorrt/convert/op_converter.h"
 #include "paddle/fluid/inference/tensorrt/convert/test_custom_op_plugin.h"
+#include "paddle/phi/api/all.h"
 
 PD_BUILD_OP(custom_op)
     .Inputs({"Input"})