* add cross_entropy_with_softmax phi kernel

* remove softmax_with_cross_entropy kernel

* add softmax_with_cross_entropy grad kernel

* remove original op kernel

* refine cross entropy impl

* fix pointer error

* revert kernel cu change

* fix xpu failed

* fix cinn failed

* fix npu failed

* add forward sig

* add check_nan_inf for pt kernel

* remove repeat cmake item

* fix unittest error