* [FlashAttn] add flash randomness control (#52902)

* add flash randomness control

* fix VLOG undefied

* [WIP] Integration flash attention 2 (#55758)

* Work for fa-2 padded fwd. Code to be cleaned.

* Work for fa2 unpadded fwd.

* Work for padded-bwd, dk get small diff on np.random.seed(0)

* Anyway I pass paddle's utest, except return softmax without dropout.

* Clean code.

* Modify interface.

* Clean code and add some check.

* Easy compile for dev.

* Fix ci.

* Fix ci-build.

* Add std c++17 option again.

* Limit max job when compiling fa2.

* Remove const_cast

* Add fwd params, to be cleaned.

* Clean code.

* Add bwd params.

* Clean code.

* Add enforce.

* Use v2.0.4

* Pass RNG state to fa2 capi

* Fix review.

* Add assert

* Skip compile for sm less than 80.

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Co-authored-by: NChitsing KUI <kuizhiqing@msn.com>