* reduce .so size. test=develop

* compile all targets when LITE_ON_TINY_PUBLISH=OFF

* unordered_map is more convenient when key is customized class

* test=develop

[LITE][ALL] Refine NPU and XPU passes, fix the pass matching based on the bound targets and excluded targets (#2477)

* Initial support for XPU
* Fix compiling errors of XPU
* Move XPU op kernel bridges from backends to kernels to fix deps order
* Change the namespace and directory of XPU bridges
* Add XPU SDK
* Fix header files and namespace of XPU SDK
* Add unit tests for relu and conv2d ops
* Restore the modification of paddle_api_test
* Supports simple model which contains only a relu layer
* Add compiling scripts for XPU
* Fix compiling errors of XPU
* Add comments for XPU LoadModel and BuildModel

* add full_api_static target and fix building errors, test=develop

* fix build errors, test=develop

* fix code style, test=develop

* fix lite/model_parser/pb/var_desc.cc, test=develop

* fix building errors, test=develop

* modify lite/tools/debug/CMakeLists.txt, test=develop

* checkout if passes match targets and kernels, test=develop

* add pass_utils, test=develop

* fix lite/core/mir/pass_registry.h, test=develop

* improve code styles, test=develop

* fix spell error, test=develop