[LITE][NPU][XPU] Refine subgraph pass, and support NPU/XPU model generation at execution time (#2576)

[Model Optimize Tool] enhance model optimize tool to supported specific tailoring test=develop (#2480)

* Fix bug target for kHost and kARM not equal. test=develop

* Fix license. test=develop

* add debug -g option. test=develop

* enable opencl demo. test=develop

* Fix model_optimize_tool found no opencl kernel. test=develop

* add more vlog. test=develop

* remove macro LITE_WITH_OPENCL, LITE_WITH_FPGA in passes. test=develop

* Fix valid_places in mobilenetv1_test. test=develop

* Fix bug of find no real output of fetch, after tool OPs of optimzer passes. test=develop

* Fix vlog as log message in model_optimize_tool. test=develop

* fix miscs. test=develop

* fix comment. test=develop

* Fix misspell of opencl, fpga kernels name in lite/api/CMakeLists.txt. test=develop

* add opencl macro in full_api of demo. test=develop

* add shell file to automatically build and collect publish result test=develop
* modify API inference of model_optimize_tool and add option for tiny&full publish test=develop

* [framework][place] remove prefered_place, use place order in valid_place array instead test=develop

* remove kHost from valid_places test=develop

fix model_optimize_tool error when using host kernel, fix reshape op build error on ios, test=develop (#1984)