cherry-picked and adapted from drbd 9 devel branch

READs will be interesting to at most one connection,
WRITEs should be interesting for all established connections.

Introduce some helper functions to hopefully make this easier to follow.
Signed-off-by: NPhilipp Reisner <philipp.reisner@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: NLars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>