The ib_cm can incorrectly detect a stale connection (a new connection
request for a QPN that is already connected) as a duplicate connection
request.  Separate the handling of potential duplicate REQs from stale
connections.
Signed-off-by: NSean Hefty <sean.hefty@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: NRoland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>