Add infrastructure for auto-negotiation of speed, duplex and flow
control.

When using 10Xpress, auto-negotiate flow control.  While we're
at it, clean up the code to warn when partner is not 10GBASE-T
capable.
Signed-off-by: NBen Hutchings <bhutchings@solarflare.com>
Signed-off-by: NDavid S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>