When processing an MPA Start Request, if the listening endpoint is
DEAD, then abort the connection.

If the IWCM returns an error, then we must abort the connection and
release resources.  Also abort_connection() should not post a CLOSE
event, so clean that up too.
Signed-off-by: NSteve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: NRoland Dreier <roland@purestorage.com>