Move to using RCU access to a peer's service connection tree when routing
an incoming packet.  This is done using a seqlock to trigger retrying of
the tree walk if a change happened.

Further, we no longer get a ref on the connection looked up in the
data_ready handler unless we queue the connection's work item - and then
only if the refcount > 0.


Note that I'm avoiding the use of a hash table for service connections
because each service connection is addressed by a 62-bit number
(constructed from epoch and connection ID >> 2) that would allow the client
to engage in bucket stuffing, given knowledge of the hash algorithm.
Peers, however, are hashed as the network address is less controllable by
the client.  The total number of peers will also be limited in a future
commit.
Signed-off-by: NDavid Howells <dhowells@redhat.com>