Summary:
Although ColumnFamilySet comments say that DB mutex can be
freed during iteration, as long as you hold a ref while releasing DB
mutex, this is not quite true because UnrefAndTryDelete might delete cfd
right before it is needed to get ->next_ for the next iteration of the
loop.

This change solves the problem by making a wrapper class that makes such
iteration easier while handling the tricky details of UnrefAndTryDelete
on the previous cfd only after getting next_ in operator++.

FreeDeadColumnFamilies should already have been obsolete; this removes
it for good. Similarly, ColumnFamilySet::iterator doesn't need to check
for cfd with 0 refs, because those are immediately deleted.

Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/facebook/rocksdb/pull/9730

Test Plan:
was reported with ASAN on unit tests like
DBLogicalBlockSizeCacheTest.CreateColumnFamily (very rare); keep watching

Reviewed By: ltamasi

Differential Revision: D35038143

Pulled By: pdillinger

fbshipit-source-id: 0a5478d5be96c135343a00603711b7df43ae19c9