Summary:
Add a util method `HandleWriteBatchTimestampSizeDifference` to handle a `WriteBatch` read from WAL log when user-defined timestamp size record is written and read. Two check modes are added: `kVerifyConsistency` that just verifies the recorded timestamp size are consistent with the running ones. This mode is to be used by `db_impl_secondary` for opening a DB as secondary instance. It will also be used by `db_impl_open` before the user comparator switch support is added to make a column switch between enabling/disable UDT feature. The other mode `kReconcileInconsistency` will be used by `db_impl_open` later when user comparator can be changed.

Another change is to extract a method `CollectColumnFamilyIdsFromWriteBatch` in db_secondary_impl.h into its standalone util file so it can be shared.

Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/facebook/rocksdb/pull/11451

Test Plan:
```
make check
./udt_util_test
```

Reviewed By: ltamasi

Differential Revision: D45894386

Pulled By: jowlyzhang

fbshipit-source-id: b96790777f154cddab6d45d9ba2e5d20ebc6fe9d