Refactored code so that the drop-flag values for initialized
(`DTOR_NEEDED`) versus dropped (`DTOR_DONE`) are given explicit names.

Add `mem::dropped()` (which with `DTOR_DONE == 0` is semantically the
same as `mem::zeroed`, but the point is that it abstracts away from
the particular choice of value for `DTOR_DONE`).

Filling-drop needs to use something other than `ptr::read_and_zero`,
so I added such a function: `ptr::read_and_drop`.  But, libraries
should not use it if they can otherwise avoid it.

Fixes to tests to accommodate filling-drop.