Noah Misch diagnosed the buildfarm problems in the isolation tests
partly as failure to differentiate backends properly; the old code was
using backend IDs, which is not good enough because a new backend might
use an already used ID.  Use PIDs instead.

Also, the code was purposely careless about other concurrent activity,
because it isn't expected; and in fact, it doesn't affect the vast
majority of the time.  However, it can be observed that autovacuum can
block tables for long enough to cause sporadic failures.  The new code
accounts for that by ignoring locks held by processes not explicitly
declared in our spec file.

Author: Noah Misch