and aborted transactions have different effects; also teach it not to assume
that prepared transactions are always committed.

Along the way, simplify the pgstats API by tying counting directly to
Relations; I cannot detect any redeeming social value in having stats
pointers in HeapScanDesc and IndexScanDesc structures.  And fix a few
corner cases in which counts might be missed because the relation's
pgstat_info pointer hadn't been set.